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Leave me, shadow
Stay and die
Clouded veil
Why here you lie

Flee not, heart
I doubt you fly
I doubt
I die

Friedman on Caring

John Doris summarizes Marilyn Friedman's opinion of a certain "care ethic" delegated between men and women as such:

While men's caring, as revealed in earning a paycheck and providing material goods for the family, has to do with protection and material forms of help that men control, women's caring, as revealed in emotional work, has to do with admitting dependency and sharing or losing control, which contributes to their own oppression (Friedman 1993, 175 and 177).

Feminist Moral Psychology, p. 5

At the very least from a Christian perspective, this is outrageous. Ask the next stay at home mom you talk to if she thinks she's oppressing herself by raising her children. Then, after she most likely affirms you of her love for her kids and family and her desire to be there for them, ask her husband if he loves his family. Then, after he tells you the same thing, only that he must subject himself to long days of work in order to provide the basic, necessary materials of life for them, go tell Marilyn Friedman that she is a paranoid, sociopathic propagandist who must be experiencing a reality distorted from the cross so far as to exclude love from the underlying motive of human relations.

Perhaps I am asserting an overly optimistic image of the modern day family, but I assure you that I am aware of the alarming amounts of brokenness that exist today. I am rather, just as Friedman seems to be doing, targeting the "healthy" or "normal" homes of the world. Regardless, the fact remains that this excerpt and the context from which it was taken are not only very far-fetched but also quite dangerous and threaten to tear families apart with, ironically enough if you read the article in its entirety, what could be seen as "deformed desires" of neglecting their families' needs to "reclaim their autonomy" in the minds of household mothers everywhere.